The Track of Life

Behind me is a track. Let’s pretend it’s the track of life. You can either run it or you can stand back and watch. Who do you let control your life? Are you in control or are you letting life just happen?

You are not meant to stay stuck in life. Your mindset has a huge impact on that track. If you want all life had to offer, you need to BELIEVE you deserve that. It’s called the law of attraction. What you send out into the universe is what you get back. So if you want to run that track and take control of your life, the time is NOW! ⭐️

How do you get started? Honestly, you just start. Wherever you are, whatever circumstance – the first step is to just decide you want something different.

The next step – take action! It can be small steps, but start doing life differently. Whether that means getting up thirty minutes earlier to do personal growth or standing in front of a mirror and saying daily affirmations. You need to walk the walk, not just talk the talk.

Happy and successful people did not just start out that way. They had setbacks. They had times they wanted to quit. The only different is they stuck toward their goal. You have the power within you to be who you want to be. You just have to stay on that track and be mindful of your thoughts and actions. Believe you can, and you will.

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Intro to Clean Eating

This is the beginning of the recipes section of my website! A new tab will be made on the homepage to display some of my personal favorite clean eating recipes.

Part of “Holistic Living” is living to the best of your ability physically, as well as mentally. When you eat clean – riding of processed foods and common allergens, you will notice an increase in your energy levels and a boost of overall well-being. This does not mean the occasionally pizza or ice cream will damage you, I want to make that clear! But living that 80-20 lifestyle, will allow you to focus primarily on your health without totally riding your cravings.

Remember – it takes 21 days to make something a habit. Don’t give up!!

Here are some tips to eating clean and increasing health:

  1. Load up on veggies – Most of us lack fruits and veggies in our diet and do not get enough on a daily basis. Try to increase your intake by adding a little more to each meal. Half your dinner at night should be veggies. If you are still struggling, check out a supplement to help add the minerals/vitamins. Greens Balance is my go-to choice.
  2. Try to limit your gluten intake for thirty days. See if it makes a difference in your digestion. Some have sensitives with gluten and don’t even know it. If you are okay with gluten, switch to whole grain breads.
  3. Eat more lean meat – such as turkey, fish, chicken, and grass-fed beef.
  4. Limit processed foods. Processed foods often have a lot of sugar or sodium and are high in calories and lack nutrients.
  5. Add more protein in your diet. I personally find it hard to eat enough protein during the day, which is why I makes shakes in the morning with protein powder and a protein boost.
  6. Limit dairy and soy intake. Dairy is another common allergen that causes problems without us knowing it. It is highly inflammatory, it’s acid-forming, and its full of hormones.
  7. Stay mindful of added sugar and added salt. These are called micronutrients, and we often neglect to look at them. We think carbs, fats, calories, and protein – but sugar intake and sodium intake are important as well. Try to keep it at a consistent level, where they are not spiking.
  8. Consider supplements for certain vitamins/minerals you are low on. I have heard so many people say no before really considering the benefit it has for your body. If you are one who doesn’t like to eat a lot or is against veggies, adding a nutritionally-dense supplement is not a bad thing. In fact, it allows you to meet your goal without feeling miserable about it. Like I said, I would never personally meet my protein goal without a protein supplement.

If you are interested in a 30 day clean eating challenge with daily education and coaching, feel free to send me an email.

In the meantime, look for a recipes section to come!

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Success: The Iceberg Illusion

“Achievements and success often blind us so that we often are not even aware of the huge efforts that were necessary to make these outcomes possible.”

Katelyn Shelby, Blogger

The iceberg illusion highlights the difference between what you see and what you don’t see when it comes to achieving success. While it is not an original concept of mine, I wanted to share it because I personally refer back to it to remind myself success takes time.

I want you to think of an iceberg. The first thing you probably think of is the top of the iceberg sticking out of the water. But, truth is, there is also a bottom. A bottom that goes deep down in the cold, icy waters.

Just like many of us tend to think about the top of the iceberg rather than the whole iceberg itself, many of us see success the same way. We forget the hard work, the dedication, the failures, the disappointments, and all the sacrifice that happens when you are working toward a goal.

It is so easy to see a successful person and think “I wish I was them. They have life easy.” However, in stating this, we aren’t acknowledging what it took for that person to get where they are in life.

Eminem and Jennifer Lopez are two good examples of this. They have achieved much success in their careers, but they both had challenging upbringings in rough neighborhoods. They could have easily given up because their situation looked grim. In fact, JLo still stayed focused on her dream even when her mother kicked her out of the house, and had nowhere to go. Talk about perseverance! Most of us don’t know that, because we focus on the here and now. It’s almost as if it has been built into our culture.

We are in a microwave era, as I like to call it – where instant gratification is what we want, and what we expect. We have to challenge this thought and change our mindset. While we cannot always see all of the efforts of a successful person firsthand, we have to remember the efforts that are hidden below the surface.

Success only comes through hard work and to those who are consistent and patience. So, the next time you start doubting yourself remember that success is not a linear path. Failure is not falling short of your goal. The only way you can fail is if you quit.

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The Truth Behind Eating Disorders

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“Choosing to engage in binging, extreme dieting, purging and other obsessive behaviors relating to body image and weight loss are attempts to “self-treat” their lack of control in other aspects of their life where they have no control.”

Psychology Today, Kristen Fuller M.D.

One of the biggest misconceptions about Eating Disorders are that they are about food/body image. While they may start out that way, they often spiral into a totally different monster.

When I was thirteen, I started to gain weight due to antidepressants. It hit me heavily as it was just another insecurity that was added to my plate.

Over the next three years, I began to slowly lose weight due to smaller portions and a lovely VHS tape that had a pilates routine I could do everyday. I worked really hard that last summer when I was sixteen and I was finally back to where I was before the antidepressants.

When I got back to school that fall, I began getting compliments from peers and teachers. “Did you lose weight? You look good.” You want to know what that translated to me: “You looked horrible before. You weren’t good enough. Clearly they notice you if you lose weight…maybe I need to keep going?”

While those comments from others were well intended, my brain was now connecting my value as a human being to what I looked like. Dangerous combination.

In addition, my life was starting to feel out of control so my weight/food intake felt like one thing I could manage. At the time, my dad was beginning to develop dementia due to his older age. This was something I knew that was going to happen, but definitely not something a sixteen-year-old is ready to handle. I felt like I couldn’t relate to anyone, which made school particularly challenging socially. I was not as outgoing as my brother, and instead focused on a few close friendships and on my schoolwork. The school I went to was super competitive and would always focus on those top students. Looking back all of us were smart for even being in that school – but at the time, I felt dumb as shit (excuse my language!). So again, this just led me back to focusing on something I could control – my weight.

As I let my eating disorder mind grow and my self-worth diminish, I went downhill fast and continued to struggle for years after that. It wasn’t until I met a DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapist) specialist at my college that I started to realize my ED was deeper rooted than just food and looks. Inside I was struggling. I wanted control, I wanted “perfection”, and I wanted to feel like I was worth something. It is never about “just eating” or stopping whatever ED behaviors are occurring, because the bottom line is: food is not the problem. As Dr. Kristen Fuller states, “choosing to engage in binging, extreme dieting, purging and other obsessive behaviors relating to body image and weight loss are attempts to ‘self-treat’ their lack of control in other aspects of their life where they have no control.” DBT helped me see the facts, instead of letting my thoughts become my reality.

Before this switch takes place, it is almost like you are fighting against this unknown entity inside of you – telling you how worthless you are. Jenni Schaefer, an eating disorder survivor and author, uses her book “Life Without Ed” as a way to show others how much an eating disorder can distort your mind and become almost like an abusive boyfriend rather than a condition. Your mind becomes super focused on these negative thoughts that you lose sight of reality.

This is why eating disorder patients often seek in-patient treatment more than once. If you are not ready to challenge your thoughts (which – let’s be honest – we all run from everyday), you will not recover. You might go through the motions, but true recovery happens when you find something more important than your eating disorder – which takes more than “just eating” to do.

When you realize your eating disorder is serving a deeper meaning in your life, you now have the power to challenge it and to heal those untrue “truths” you set for yourself. No one is a lost cause.

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Hidden Facts about Skin Care

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The goal of my blog posts is promote holistic living and help others achieve optimal wellness spiritually, mentally, and, physically.

If we take a look a physical health, there are various ways to reach this goal.

Today, I want to take a look at skin care specifically (and the facts surrounding it) so that you can make the best choices for your health. Many of the facts listed below, I personally did not know until a few years ago – which I why I felt compelled to share.

10 Facts About Skin Care You Might Not Know

1. Your skin is the largest organ of the body.

2. 90% of visible signs of aging are from the sun or environmental factors. Genetics play a minimal role. So that means ONLY 10% of visible aging actually comes from natural aging!

3. Your skin starts losing collagen as early as your 20s. So everyone can benefit from an anti-aging line! Vitamin C is also shown to help maintain healthy skin through its antioxidants.

4. Exfoliation removes dead skin cells clogging the skin and opens the way for your skincare products to penetrate more deeply into the skin, which makes them more effective. Exfoliating 2-3 times a week is recommended. People prone to having oily skin should exfoliate on a daily basis.

5. Washing your face twice a day is recommended. Dirt, makeup, and dead skin cells can build up on your skin over the course of the day potentially causing blocked pores.

6. What you eat and put in your body CAN affect the appearance of your skin. Let’s take sugar for example: sugar increases your insulin levels making your skin look saggy, washed out & sallow. Sugar can also affect the balance of bacteria in your gut which can lead to breakouts on the face, shoulders, and chest.

7. Because your skin is one of the largest organs your body has, it works hard every day to protect your body from harmful elements. Taking care of your skin and developing a skin care routine is very important because it helps this organ to do its job better.

8. The European Union bans nearly 1400 ingredients, the US bans 11. This is how unregulated the products are here in the US. That is why I personally choose a European formulated brand.

9. Dark spots can appear on your skin the more you are exposed to the sun, making it
vital to wear SPF as a teen and young adult.

10. Getting a good night’s sleep is just as important to your skin, as it is your mind and body.

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Anniversary of My Suicide Attempt

The semicolon project: my life could have stopped, but I continued on.

Exactly seventeen years ago, I attempted to take my own life. I don’t talk about it much because I don’t like to remember that day or the events after it. In actuality, I think part of my psyche has blocked it from my memory because I only remember bits and pieces.

I was thirteen. I remember the pain I felt; deep, intense, hopeless. I felt alone. Yet, when I went into the inpatient/outpatient programs, everyone just looked at me and said “You don’t belong here.” It wasn’t out of malice, even though it may sound like it. All the other teenagers around me had severely broken childhoods and families that really did not give a damn. And there I was – with two parents who loved me and who tried to give me the best life possible. It pains me to think of it because the guilt I felt was tremendous. “I didn’t deserve to feel pain”, I thought.

But the truth? Everyone is entitled to their emotions. We cannot compare circumstances. It does no good and it does not solve the problem.

While I did not have a broken family, I had a severe chemical imbalance – most of which I contribute to getting my menstrual cycle early. My body was developing fast, but my surroundings were not and my brain was still one of a thirteen-year-old. I would get conflicted as to how I should be feeling and what I actually was feeling.

In addition, the meds I was put on for my depression and anxiety were not handled properly. The doctor started me off on a high dose and then did not monitor it. My parents did not know any better. After all, they trusted the doctor.

To this day, I remember my dad’s face when he found out I overdosed on pain medication. I stayed home that day because I needed a mental break from school. I felt so alone with my feelings that I just broke – I grabbed the bottle without thinking and continued to shove the pills down my throat. My dad knew I did something. He kept asking, “What did you do? What did you do?” I don’t remember what tipped him off honestly, but he knew. I was honest. Then he called 911.

The cops showed up with an ambulance. I was so scared. I was crying. “I’m fine! I’m sorry. I won’t do it again. Please don’t take me away.” I just wanted them to go away.

Once at the hospital, they pumped my stomach full of charcoal. I met with some doctors who I tried to convince “I WAS FINE”. But since I had made an attempt, I had to be inpatient for a couple days.

Those days were filled with the scariest moments I had seen yet being only thirteen. I was trying to understand my emotions, while also be frightened into seeing the worst of the worst situations. To give you an idea – someone smashed their head through a glass panel on a door in an attempt to end their life.

I wouldn’t understand this experience until much later in life. I never wanted to end my life. I wanted the pain to stop. I wanted to understand my feelings and how to feel better.

Since I refused to deal with it, those emotions just fostered into an eating disorder three years later. I used food as a cop out to control the emotions I felt were out of control.

Now almost two decades later, I have completely done a 180. I’m so glad I failed that day because I had so much to accomplish that God was planning for me. I look at my struggles with mental health as a time that made me stronger and more understanding. I am now able to help others with my story and encourage them to keep fighting. It is no walk in the park; it takes time, dedication, continual therapy, and patience. BUT IT IS SO WORTH IT. I truly believe we were each created for something special. Sometimes it takes others longer to find it and that’s okay. We each bloom at our own time.

When you feel at your lowest, remember me as an example to keep fighting. You have no idea what God has in store for you and whose life you will one day impact. I’m in your corner.

If you or something you know is suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Help is available.

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Watching Your Loved One Pass

“I’ll be seeing you…”

Billie Holiday
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It was April 24, 2010. I was twenty years old. My dad was sick with pancreatic cancer and had just gone through his second major surgery in two years. Most of my days were spent between college classes and the hospital room in which I slowly watched my dad deteriorate.

On that warm spring day in April, I remember sitting at my kitchen table catching up on my college homework, while my mom was at the hospital and my boyfriend was at work. It was 3:30 in the afternoon and my phone began to ring. It was my mom – “I think you should come to the hospital. Dad is not doing good.” By the sound of her voice, I knew it was serious – yet I also did not realize what the rest of the day would entail.

I called my boyfriend, who drove my car to work that day. “I need you to come home and take me to the hospital – Dad is not doing well.” Without hesitation, he left work and drove the 45 minutes home.

By the time we arrived at the hospital it was around 5pm. When I walked in the room, I could see the difference and I knew something was wrong. He was not responsive and, according to the doctor, was on a high dose of morphine. I held his hand and told him I loved him. Within those fifteen minutes, his breathing began to slow down. I kept saying, “We need a nurse, something is not right”. I ran out and grabbed one. When she looked at him, she said “It won’t be much longer.”

With those words, a range of emotions went through me. No matter how much you know someone is at the end of their life, you are never prepared for that moment itself.

I spent the next five minutes watching as the breaths got slower and slower. His body was shutting down in front of my eyes, as his soul was preparing to move on. Breathing was shallow…then the last breath came…I watched his tongue as he breathed in and his body went limp. It was 5:20pm. Within twenty minutes of arriving at the hospital, my dad was gone.

I immediately dropped to the floor and screamed. My boyfriend leaned down and held me as I cried in disbelieve. I couldn’t even look at my mom because of the immense amount of pain I felt. Did this really just happen? Is my dad really gone?

I spent the rest of the night in a fog, yet to this day I remember odd details like what I was wearing, what food I ate, and what my dad looked like when I left that hospital room that day. My senses were heightened even though I felt like I was no longer in my body.

One of the last things I remember that day was picking up a picture frame I gave to my dad that said “Daddy’s Little Girl”. As I held the picture frame in my hand, I looked at the two of us and said, “I will always be daddy’s little girl”. All of a sudden, the lights flickered. Lights that have never flicked in the twenty years I have lived in that house. You can call it coincidence, but I call it my dad. It was a sign that no matter how far away he was, he was always going to be in my heart.

To this day, my mom questions if she did the right thing by calling me the day my dad passed away. My response? I was meant to be there. Dad waited for me. I would not take that away for anything. The hard part has been making peace with those last images of my dad in the hospital bed. While I am glad I was there, remembering him in that room is still hard for me to picture – even ten years later.

Watching a loved one pass for that reason is a very selfless act. We do it to help that person move on to their forever home in Heaven. But, for us, still on Earth, there is no amount of preparation that will help you with that moment you say goodbye.

What helps is making every day count up until that last day. Fill it with laughter, fill it with joy, tell stories, and say “I love you”.

When that day comes, remind yourself how strong you are and that it is okay to grieve. We need time to grieve in order to move on. You’ll feel numb, you’ll feel pain, and you’ll feel anger. Let yourself feel those emotions.

Then take a step back, fill yourself with the good memories, and say “I’ll be seeing you…”.

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The Power of a “Vision Board”

“When you make a decision, the universe rises up to meet you. Even when it comes to the hard things— you have to be able to let them go so that your hands are free to receive new blessings.”

– Rachel Hollis

A vision board is a powerful way of letting the law of attraction kick in. According to Forbes magazine, 82% of entrepreneurs who use a vision board say they’ve accomplished more than half the goals depicted. Simply put, a vision board is a collection of words, phrases, and pictures that signify a person’s goals and determination to make them happen.

What’s the purpose of creating a vision board? It helps provide clarity and focus – and more importantly, it reinforces your daily affirmations. When you release yourself from limiting beliefs and allow daily affirmations to take place, the possibilities are unlimited!

It is easy to get caught up in life and forget about your ultimate goals. With a vision board, you are constantly reminded of your dream, allowing you to fight back against any negative thoughts or circumstances. Most of the time our negative self-talk actually discourages us (and ultimately prevents us!) from becoming who we were purposed to be. A vision board appeals to both the conscious and subconscious mind, keeping you focused on your intentions and the direction you want to go.

How to get started:

– Make a list of the following categories:
Health, Family, Career, Spirituality, Love, Wealth, Hobbies/Bucket List.

-Jot down what you ideally want your life to look in each of these categories

-Start cutting phrases and pictures out of magazines that match your vision. Also, you type phrases or can go online for pictures.

-Then arrange the pictures/phrases on a corkboard or poster board. Then viola!

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Suffering from Chronic Pain

“Throughout the world, 1 in 5 people suffer from moderate to severe chronic pain.”

Breivik H, Collet B, Ventafridda V, Cohen R, Gallacher D. Survey of chronic pain in Europe: prevalence, impact on daily life, and treatment. Eur J Pain. 2006;10:287-333. 

February 24, 2015 – It was 3:10 in the afternoon. I was working as a Pre-K teacher at the time and had just finished setting up for the next day. I grabbed my things and headed to my car. I called my husband at the time to tell him I was leaving, and I proceeded to pull out of the parking lot. Little did I know that the next twenty minutes would change the course of my life forever.

Thirteen minutes passed. It was now 3:23 in the afternoon. For some reason, I remember the time distinctly even if the rest is a bit fuzzy. I was driving down Rt. 30 when I came to an intersection. I pulled around the car in front of me and continued to drive straight. I saw a car coming in the opposite direction. I prayed “please don’t turn in front of me” because I literally had nowhere to go. In milliseconds, the car turned hitting my driver’s side door sending my car spinning into an electrical box. Smoke from the air bag blew up and that is about all I remember in those moments.

Fast forward eight weeks later – after being out on medical leave, I tried hard to put the pieces of my life back together. I suffered a concussion (and, from that, frequent migraines), pain down my arm from a pinched nerve, and pain in my neck/back from bulging and herniated discs. With the help of a neurologist and chiropractor, I was back up and moving around at the end of those eight weeks but the pain still persisted.

Now, almost five years later, I have learned to compensate for the days I feel the pain the most. Unfortunately, chronic pain has a way of changing you, whether you want it to or not.

Here are five things that I struggled with following my accident:

  1. Isolation/Loss of a social life – When your body hurts, the last thing you want to do is use what little energy you have left to go out. As a result, I definitely began spending more time alone and less time with friends.
  2. Loss independence/career – This past year, I was diagnosed with Lyme Disease twice. That was the frosting on the cake — I honestly re-evaluated my teaching career and decided I no longer had the physical energy to keep up. I started working a desk job instead.
  3. Unpredictability – Some days are good, some days are bad. This makes it hard when it comes to getting things done or working out. You are at the mercy of your body.
  4. Ignorance/Lack of Understanding from others – I hate to say it like this because it wasn’t like others purposely didn’t care…it was just hard for them to understand my pain when they did not feel it everyday and you could not physically see it.
  5. Depression – As someone who likes to be active, it is hard to be a slave to my body – especially in the colder weathers when I feel more discomfort. I fight to get out of this mindset almost on a daily basis.

Moderate to severe chronic pain affects one out of every five people on this planet.

I wanted to share my experience because pain can have a major impact on an individual and how they lead their life. For example: Plans may be changed at the last minute. Texts might be answered later than expected. Fits of frustration might just come out of nowhere. All of these resulting factors can begin to impact relationships over time. It is important to stay open-minded and to try to understand how adapting to pain can change you as a person.

If you personally are the one suffering from chronic pain, know that your physical and emotional pain is valid. You are not lazy and you are not crazy. Letting yourself rest does not make you weak. The pain you smile through everyday makes you strong. It is okay to take baby steps. The pain itself does not define who you are – YOU DEFINE WHO YOU ARE…..AND YOU ARE ONE STRONG ASS BITCH for every breath you breathe and every day you wake up determined to make your dreams come true.

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When You Find “The One”

“There are many forms of love, as there are moments in time.”

Jane Austin

How do you know when you find “the one”? It’s going to sound simple, yet not simple all at the same time. The cliff notes version is you just know.

Now – you are probably reading this and thinking “that is the stupidest answer I have ever heard”, but let me explain further.

There are many kinds of love in this world. Many people end up settling for what they think is “the one” because they love them…however, you can love someone and also not be meant for them.

My ex-husband and I met about twelve years ago and were together for nearly ten years. We were only eighteen when we met so we spent a good part of our early years growing up together and figuring out life. During the ten years, I definitely did love him. At the time, I thought because I loved him, he must be “the one”. I had no other life experiences to tell me otherwise. While we had our issues and there were disagreements, I was conditioned to think all couples go through this (which they do to some degree). So I would repeat – “we will get through”. In doing so, I ignored several times when I questioned if I was in the right relationship. We were slowly drifting apart and going in separate directions. Yet, giving up my wedding vows was not something I was ready to do. Toward the end our relationship, it became very unhealthy – yelling, cursing, punching walls, infidelity…you name it. Clearly us ignoring we were not meant to be was no longer working.

Did we love each other? Yes. Were we supposed to be together? No.

Staying together because you love someone is not always the answer, especially if you analyze that love and find that something feels off. If you meditate on it, quite often you will find the answer. It is important to trust your gut at this point.

When I met my current girlfriend, within that first month I knew she was the one. I know – completely crazy – especially because within the ten years I was with my husband – I was never that sure.

My love for her is completely different from the love I felt for my husband. It doesn’t mean I loved him any less – it just means I loved him differently.

There are certain signs to look for that signal the passionate kind of love you feel when you meet “the one”. That does not mean you have to end every relationship you come across because they aren’t perfect for you. But for those of you that want to settle down, get married, and start families – it is important to consider if your significant other is really the right match for you before you move to the next step.

So here are ten things that I noticed are different in my current relationship versus my last relationship:

  1. I feel more myself. I don’t have to worry about my mistakes or flaws because they are all accepted.
  2. Our goals and values align. We want the same things.
  3. She doesn’t complete me, but rather she makes me a whole person on my own and then just adds a wonderful light to it.
  4. We handle any problem or challenge in a mature way. We talk things out, we never argue.
  5. We have overcome obstacles together.
  6. Every day I wake up excited about life. I feel grateful to be alive and grateful to have her.
  7. Home is not always a place, but rather a person.
  8. I had a gut feeling she was the one.
  9. Our physical chemistry is off the charts and continues to be even years later.
  10. We are addicted to each other, but in a good way. We love being together, but also respect each other when we want to do our own thing.

I do not regret my marriage or being in a relationship with my ex-husband. But, I do regret staying longer than I should have. I was afraid to move on because I did love him and did not understand how I could just walk away from someone I loved. Then I learned, “there are many forms of love, as there are moments in time.” It was okay to love him and let him go because he was not “the one” for me.

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